Hey ho, ho hey!

I think I have alluded to it in other posts. But an interesting tidbit about me is that back in the early 90's I was a hip hop chick. I had tons of rap and R&B music. Stuff like Dr Dre, Snoop Dog, Naughy by Nature(No O.P.P. for me though) and practically everything else that was popular back then. I even decked myself out in the baggiest clothes I could find, which I usually found in the men's section. Now, it goes without saying that I was a strange thing in extremely white Northern Utah. I got made fun of a lot for listening to that "rap crap" which I find funny now because everyone who used to make fun of me listens to "Rap crap" now and I rarely do. I don't really like the new stuff except for maybe Nelly and Eminem, other than that give me my old school stuff! I have gone back to my hard rock and roll roots.

Now, as some might know I am married to a black man. He is not your stereotypical black man. He wasn't born in this country, he doesn't really like rap in fact he likes a lot of country music, much to my great and utter dismay because I always said I could never be with someone who likes that shit. But here I am!! And I love him a lot, weird country music lover that he is. Hey no one is perfect.

He wasn't my first black boyfriend. But I swear I didn't have a preference for black men, but damn if there aren't some fine ones out there, it's just that in Utah the white, TBM, RM, men that I knew thought I was too weird to date. And I thank God for that every day. I am so happy I married the man that I did. I can't imagine what kind of crap I would be getting right now from a TBM husband.

Anyway I started this because I wanted to dispel some rumors about interracial relationships that have actually been brought up to me. Some people have a lot of balls or are just plain rude take your pick and have actually asked us stuff like this.

1-Do you hate your race?
Both of us have been asked this. The answer is a big phat or fat NO! We are both very proud of who we are and where we come from. We just happened to meet each other and have this huge chemistry and love for each other.

2-So you must love rap.
Well, back a few years ago as I mentioned, I did. But I don't pigeonhole myself into black music and white music catergories. If the song moves me, has a good beat and makes me want to sing and dance, I like it, it doesn't matter who sings it or what type of music it is.

3-You are a traitor to your race/sellout.
That is just too dumb to even reply to so I usually just roll my eyes.

4-There is this stereotype on all the talk shows and some movies and sitcoms that makes it seem like white girls married to black men are white trash, uneducated, and have low self-esteem and that the black men in their lives are abusive and adulterous. Well, in our case and a lot of other couple we have met that is just not the situation and I get a little tired of it. I have never been abused or cheated on and I wouldn't call myself white trash. But that's what everyone sees on tv so that's what people automatically think of us. And my husband is certainly not uneducated. He has a PhD in a very difficult field and he worked very hard to get that degree.

5-And my personal favorite: I like black men because of that stereotype of the well-endowed black men. Now, that may be true. I don't have anything to compare since I have never been intimate with a white man so I can't compare in that regard. But regardless of whether that rumor is true or not, it wouldn't have played into my decision of who to marry because that is just not the kind of gal I am. I married the man not the penis. Still I have no complaints in that department.

There are so many more little things that I have heard but I am running out of time here at the library. I just wanted to try to tackle a topic with a little more meat to it. Check back for some fluff though. That is what I am best at afterall!!