The Interview

I asked Wry Catcher to interview me. Here it is.




1. What do you like best about having three girls? Do you wish for a boy or feel any loss for not having a boy?



The thing I like best is that they will hopefully be each other's best friends for life. It is like that with me and my sisters and I think it's the best thing, so much fun and there is always someone to talk to. They are already best friends. I hope it never changes. I also love that they are so expressive and imaginative and so excited to learn. They even try to teach each other. I love to watch them interact with their dad who of course is smitten with them. They have so much fun together. He turns into a big old kid himself whenever they play together.



If we ever decide to have another child I would love it to be a boy. I see little boys out and about and I love their energy and curiosity. When I hang out with my nephews we have so much fun. It would be really cool to have a little clone of my hubby running around. It might give me an idea of what he was like as a child since I don't have pictures and I can't speak to his mother to hear stories of his childhood. I know my hubby would love a son, like most fathers do. We haven't decided if we will ever try for a boy. If we do it will only be one more time though. I don't want to have 17 kids like the family in Arkansas just so I can get a boy. :)


2. What’s the best thing about having a ethnically mixed marriage? What is the hardest?



The best thing is being a part of another culture. It's so interesting to me to hear stories about how he grew up, what his parents went through to educate him and his other siblings. I have learned to love the type of music he grew up listening to with all the different sorts of drums and guitars. I love that my daughters have such a rich heritage that they can learn about and from and hopefully be proud of. I know they love it when he speaks in his native tongue. Knowing about his culture helps me to love and appreciate my own too. I always took my middle class American upbringing for granted and never thought of it as anything special. Now I know just how good I had it.



The hardest thing is the fact that while growing up, my hubby never really celebrated things like birthdays and holidays so it has been a bit of a chore trying to get him excited about them now. I love those things and I love celebrating them but sometimes feel like I am doing it alone. He is getting better since we have had kids. Also since he grew up so poor I think it's hard for him to spend money. He is always afraid that he will have to be poor again. I am kind of a spender so meshing our two spending styles has been aggravating at times. Other than that it really hasn't been that hard. We have a lot of support from family and friends not to mention a deep love for each other that withstands any trials we come up against.




3. What are the things you love best about your husband? What things make you nuts? What do you like best about yourself? Each of your girls?



I love that my husband is hard-working, smart, funny and that he can be playful at times. He really tries to make my life and the lives of our girls as fun, comfortable and safe as possible. He looks out for our welfare before his own. He's not afraid to get down on the floor and play with the girls(or me heehee). He is really good at balancing work and fun because he knows that both are important.



What drives me nuts is that he is a bit of a perfectionist. He can get down on himself really easy if things aren't quite up to snuff. He can get pretty high strung at times which can lead to sulkiness if he thinks I am not quite getting where he's coming from.



What I like best about myself is my sense of humor. It has gotten us through many a tough time. Most of the time I can make my hubby laugh and get him out of whatever funk he has gotten himself into. I think I am a good mom too. I play with my kids, I read to them, I help them learn. I let them be kids instead of miniature adults. So what if I sometimes give them cake for breakfast or let them watch a little too much T.V. They know that they are loved and that mommy will always be there for them.



What I like best about my oldest daughter(5 yrs) is her determination to learn. She is currently learning to write the alphabet and has had a bit of trouble with her R's and S's but she kept practicing and now they look wonderful. She is also a very loving child. Always up for a hug or a kiss whether giving or receiving. She loves life and loves learning and is quite the good dancer. She makes me laugh on a daily basis.



What I like best about my second daughter(3 yrs) is her spunk. She will not take no for an answer which can get annoying but I think it will serve her well in the future. She is quite the little talker too. She will make up a story off the top of her head and it actually makes sense. She also loves to sing and will break out into song anywhere, home, the store, the park, she doesn't care. She is also very loving and gives the best hugs.



What I like best about my third daughter(3 months) is her cute little smile. She opens her whole mouth when she smiles it is so damn cute. She is my sweet little angel and I am so happy we "accidentally" got pregnant with her. She is even letting me get more sleep at night. Finally!! If she is anything like her big sisters she will also be smart, kind and funny when she can finally talk and interact more with us. There's no rush though. I love having her here as this adorable little baby.


4. What do you love about being a SAHM? What do you hate? What is the most important accomplishment for you in the short term as a SAHM?



What I love best about being a SAHM is just being with my girls. I don't miss out on any of their milestones. I am not a very trusting person so I am so happy I can be the one to take care of them, thanks in large part to my husband for having a wonderful job that supports us. I tried to be the working mom but it just didn't make me happy. Plus I didn't like the job I had and it wasn't worth it to me to work a crappy job when I could be spending that time with my girls. I might be telling a different story if it was a job I had loved.



The hardest thing is sometimes I feel very isolated. It can be really lonely being a SAHM. I miss having daily adult interaction with coworkers. I miss bringing in a paycheck. It felt good being able to contribute to the family income. I miss actually looking forward to the weekends because when you are a SAHM the days just seem to run together making the weekends nothing special. That has changed a little since my oldest has been in school.



In the short term as a SAHM I just want to accomplish establishing a firm bond with my daughters. I like it that they have some comfort knowing that I will always be the one picking them up from school or being at home if they need me for whatever reason. There will come a time when they won't need me for much of anything and I will be able to remember this time I had with them with fondness and maybe a few tears.




5. What do you like most about your new town? What do you miss about your old town in FL? What do you most miss from where you grew up?



What I like most about my new town is that I get to experience all four seasons again. It is so beautiful here now with the leaves changing. I also like being in a smaller city again. It takes a lot less time to get somewhere now.



What I miss most about FL is the ocean. We used to go there every other weekend and it was always so fun. I know that once winter starts here I will miss the warm sun of FL. Right now I am glad to be out of the humidity but I have a feeling that in a few weeks I will be longing for it!



What I miss most about where I grew up is my family. They are all still living there. I miss seeing them on a daily basis. I miss our family get togethers because they were always filled with fun and laughter. I also miss the mountains, they were my favorite thing about Utah besides my family. I miss the little community I grew up in. Well, most of them anyway. If it weren't for some of them I would probably be a lot more angry with the church. They showed me what mormons should be like with their compassion , acceptance and love.



6. If you could snap your fingers and be anyone or anything for one day, who/what would that be? Why?



I am going to be cliche here and say Oprah. I just want to know what it feels like to give so much money away to people who really need it. I just think that must feel unbelievable. I would love to know what it's like being so loved and admired by people all over the world. It would also be interesting to see what it was like growing up as a poor black female and accomplishing all that she has since then.



Wow, thanks for that Wry!! It was fun for me to dig deep into my heart and soul to answer those questions. I hope I did them justice!!